My brother was my father’s primary caregiver for more than five years. He lived with our father in our childhood home until Dad passed away and still lives there now, by himself. I have three other siblings who have been talking about selling Dad’s home and dividing the proceeds equally among the children. Does my brother, who cared for my dad and lives in the home, have any rights to stay in the house, or will he be subject to the majority desire of our siblings?

What can he do to avoid being “kicked to the curb”? It depends on how the house is owned. Sometimes parents will add a child’s name to the house by quit claim deed (not recommended for lots of reasons). If your brother’s name was added to the house, he owns it and has the right… Read More »

My wife was diagnosed with advanced dementia and her doctors are telling me that she needs 24/7 health care, probably in a nursing home. If she moves to a nursing home, will I lose my home and my life savings?

This is a very good question and we work with people every day who are worried about losing their life savings because of high long-term care costs.  First, make sure to look at all other options as far as where she is receiving care. For example, an assisted living community may be less costly and… Read More »

I have three teenage daughters. My 14-year old has a disability and she receives government benefits. I have heard about something called a “special needs trust” and was wondering if you can explain how it works.

This is a really important question and it’s good that you are asking about it early.  Good planning can make a huge difference in your daughter’s life, as well as helping your other children who may be left with the responsibility for caregiving (on top of their own careers and caring for their own families)…. Read More »

My mom recently entered a nursing home. We are trying to qualify her for Medicaid on our own. Should Mom and Dad deed the house to me?

NO! Don’t do it!  We regularly help families qualify for Medicaid without having to spend or give away all of their assets. There is a lot of confusion out there about what you can and can’t do – many families mean well but don’t understand the Medicaid rules. There is nothing worse than to see… Read More »

My mother died in a nursing home in late 2016 while receiving Medicaid. She owned nothing at her death except for her condominium, which my sister and I paid to upkeep while she was in the nursing home. She has an old Will leaving everything to my sister and me. The State of Michigan recently contacted me with a bill for her nursing home care. Can they make me pay the bill?

What you are referring to is called “estate recovery”.  Under Medicaid law, following the death of the Medicaid recipient, the State must attempt to recover money paid for the Medicaid recipient’s (in this case your mother’s) care.  So, the short answer is “yes”, under the estate recovery rules the State does have the right to… Read More »

My Ex is trying to register the kids for summer camp and at a time that will interfere with my summer parenting time. This is a problem every year. Can I file my own motion to deal with this or do I need to have a lawyer?

Issues like this come up a lot, particularly at this time of year when summer plans are being made. Certainly you can file a Motion on your own but often it takes a long time for Motions to get through the system, particularly when you don’t have a good handle on how these things are… Read More »

My 84 year-old mother just returned from the hospital and is unable to stand, walk or dress herself. My siblings and I take turns taking care of her 24/7 in her home. In the long run this is not safe nor can it continue because we have jobs, our own homes, etc. My father died recently and he was a Veteran, and my mother also has about $105,000 in the bank. What are our options?

Your main goal should be to get the best possible care for your mother, whether at home or outside the home. Home care 24/7 is very expensive, likely even more costly than having her move to assisted living or a nursing home. Because your mother was married to a Veteran, she may be eligible for… Read More »

How is Child Support calculated?

There are a number of different factors used to determine how much the child support obligation will be. First and foremost are the incomes of the parties and the number of overnights that the children will spend with each parent over the year. Other factors are the amount paid for day care (if a child is… Read More »

My father is a Korean War Veteran and has been diagnosed with dementia. He will likely need to move into an assisted living community. I don’t know how my mother will afford to keep her house and pay for my father’s assisted living costs. Are there any Veterans’ benefits that might help?

Yes. A married wartime Veteran like your father may qualify for what is called “pension plus aid and attendance”. This benefit is up to $2,124 per month, tax free for life. The benefit is available if certain health and financial conditions are met, although the rules are complicated.  You should know that this benefit is… Read More »

I pay about $3,000 in child support each month and my oldest just started college. I pay $1,000 per month to the school toward tuition and room and board. Can I deduct this payment from the child support and pay only $2000?

In Michigan, the answer is no in most cases. Because the Court does not have jurisdiction to order you to pay college tuition (except in very rare circumstances) the Court cannot give you credit for college tuition paid against child support. The same is true for other types of expenditures for the kids, i.e. clothing… Read More »